For a long time, happiness was something I feared. It sounds strange, but I genuinely believed that if I let myself feel happy, it couldn’t last. I thought it was too good to be true—or that something bad would inevitably follow. So I held back. I found myself rejecting good things, convincing myself that I wasn’t worthy of them.
I was so used to living in struggle, constantly worrying and anxious, that pure and simple felt almost foreign. I didn’t know how to relax into happiness or allow life to be good without expecting the other shoe to drop.
Recognizing the Fear
At some point, I started to see the patterns. I realized I was self-sabotaging—pushing joy away and bracing for disappointment before it even came. It wasn’t that I didn’t want to be happy; it was that happiness felt vulnerable. And that vulnerability was terrifying.
How I Started to Shift
The journey to embracing happiness wasn’t instant, but little by little, I began making small changes. Here’s what helped me along the way:
1. Challenging My Beliefs
I realized I had to unlearn the idea that I didn’t deserve happiness. It took time, but I began to question those beliefs and remind myself that everyone is worthy of joy—including me.
2. Practicing Gratitude
I started noticing and appreciating the good things, no matter how small. A daily gratitude practice helped me shift my focus from what was missing to what was already present.
3. Allowing Discomfort
Happiness can feel vulnerable, and that’s okay. I learned that it’s normal to feel uneasy when good things happen—and that I didn’t need to run from that discomfort.
4. Surrounding Myself with Uplifting Energy
I sought out people, content, and experiences that made me feel good. Whether through conversations with friends or moments of reflection, I surrounded myself with positive influences.
5. Taking Small Risks Toward Joy
Little by little, I started leaning into joy, even when it felt scary. Whether it was saying “yes” to an opportunity or pausing to enjoy a moment of happiness, I learned that the more I allowed it, the easier it became.
What Life Feels Like Now
These days, my life feels more true and beautiful than I ever thought possible. I’m not saying things are perfect—far from it. But even in the hard moments, there’s a sense of happiness that runs deeper than fleeting joy. It’s like I’ve built a foundation that keeps me steady, no matter what life throws my way.
If you’ve ever felt scared to let good things in or found yourself waiting for the other shoe to drop, you’re not alone. I know how it feels, and I also know it doesn’t have to stay that way. Learning to welcome happiness is possible—and it changes everything.
Ready to Explore This in Your Life?
You deserve to feel good and let happiness in fully. If this resonates with you, let’s connect. I offer free calls to help you explore where you might be holding back and how to start letting the good things in.
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There’s so much happiness waiting for you on the other side of fear—and I’d love to help you experience it.
