The thirteen ways we gaslight ourselves

The thirteen ways we gaslight ourselves

We gaslight ourselves.

We know something but then convince ourselves that we don’t because it doesn’t make sense.

We question if we’re too idealistic, too sensitive, too much many times a day.

We talk ourselves out of our truth and confuse ourselves because we’re scared of what it might do to live it.

We deny our dreams and desires and make excuses for ourselves based on practicalities.

We doubt what we believe deep down and are meant to create because we can’t find existing proof. (Hint: Maybe you’re meant to create the proof.)

We look for signs outside of ourselves and want permission from someone else to confirm what we already know.

We know something is wrong — even if it’s simply because it’s not right — but we can’t fix it and feel crazy.

We can’t understand or figure out why we aren’t happier.

We have trouble making simple decisions and say “sorry” and “I don’t know” all too often.

We feel like we should just be grateful for what we have.

We busy ourselves so much so we never have to hear that inner voice.

We wonder if we’re good enough with all our flaws for what we really want.

We stop asking for more or better because we worry it’s not possible and then we’ll lose what we had that was good, but not great.

Maybe you thought you knew something and then you were wrong, so now you don’t trust yourself. Or maybe other people seem so sure that you began to doubt yourself.

And it’s not your fault.

We have internalized voices from the world we live in that tells us to stay small, afraid, and ashamed. We have lived in a society that is actively engaged in second-guessing what is true. We see this time and time again in sexual violence cases, pay inequities and glass ceilings, and experiences of humans who are not white, cis, and straight.

So we begin to doubt our reality. We disconnect from our true selves and let our small selves dictate our lives with fear. We suppress our inner voice. And we become complicit in our own oppression and give away our power.

It may not be your fault, but your life is your responsibility.

This doubt, this disbelief, this mistrust may be born from voices outside of ourselves but it’s up to you to listen to the voice deep inside of you. The one that is quiet, deeply okay, and grounded. The one that isn’t afraid, even when the small self spirals in fear and tries to pull you in. That voice is your true self speaking. It knows and it knows the way. You can trust it.

Connecting to that powerful inner voice and letting it out is part of what we’ll do together in my one-on-one coaching. This means you’ll stop gaslighting yourself and tap into your true self that is unlimited so you can do the work you were born to do.

It’s a four-step process;

Get the gunk that repeats daily in your head out of the way and see the stories the small self tells us for what it really is: lies.
Connect, unshakably, to your true self and claim that inner voice that knows but we lose in day to day life.
Take one small step at a time to build your big life. Confidence begets more confidence and your life transforms.
Then, by accepting your call, you’ll channel God/the Universe/something bigger than you and create something bigger than you. Hello, greatness!

If you want to do that, apply to work with me.

Because no one else can do it the way you can. But you don’t have to do it alone.

Listen to the quiet, deep voice within you more than any shoutings of the outside world and incessant ramblings of fear from your small self. Stop gaslighting yourself. You’ve got everything you need within you and it *is* possible.

And if that quiet, deep voice says to work with me, trust that 😉